Okay - the title of this blog and post is a little tongue in cheek. The first thing you need to know about me is my work life may be different from yours, but it really isn't that much of an "adventure". I started this blog so that I can vent since my friends and family don't know what I do. I'm going to give myself a little interview for your pleasure.
What exactly do you do?
There are so many names for what I do: tantra bodyrub, alternative relaxation therapy,rub & tug, sensual bodyrub/bodywork, happy ending... A misused title would be anything that includes the work "massage" since I do not have a license to practice in NY. One could get in arrested for practicing massage without one. I do, however give authentic deep tissue bodyrub in the nude and "relieve" my client at the end of the session. Most of of the session focuses on the rest of the body: scalp, back, feet, fingers, everything! I work for myself as an outcall service at upscale residences and hotels.
What don't you do?
I don't do what those in the sex industry call full-service or extras. This means sex of any kind, even oral! I like to do my work hands on only.
Why do guys want that? Why don't they just hire a hooker?
There are various reasons why men prefer bodyrub over escorts. Here are a few: totally safe from STDs, you don't have to do anything but lay there, the good-looking bodyrub girls are cheaper than the good looking escorts, you get a spa experience with candles/music/muscle rub (yes, men like that!), many men don't consider it cheating, etc.
How did you start?
When I graduated college I was struggling to stay on top of bills and ridiculous NY rent. I wasn't able to enjoy the city and I almost felt like moving to a more boring, but cheaper city. One day while looking at Craigslist for office jobs, I came across an ad for an S&M dungeon for $100 and hour. I joked to my then fiance that I would apply. He said, "why not? I had an ex girlfriend who did it and loved whipping men for money." I was surprised he didn't mind, so I got an interview and was hired the next day. It wasn't what I expected. It was mostly sensual roleplay (teacher/mommy/schoolgirl) and I was required to "help them" by hand at the end. I later discovered this isn't normal for a dungeon and I felt I was exerting a lot of psychological energy doing sometimes disgusting work for less money than a bodyrub parlor. I quit the dungeon and started working for a small parlor out of a high rise apartment. It was a perfect fit - the men were upper class, normal, and mostly good looking Wall St types. The environment was relaxing and I made far more money than the in the kink biz. Although I look back at the S&M work with repulsion, I certainly learned the art of keeping my clients obedient!
So... your husband knows what you do?
Yep! It's not something we really talk about in detail. We've been together over 5 years and have a very healthy monogamous relationship. I actually don't think I could do it without him. Because I'm married, I have no desire to slip into full-service work and I also feel safer being aware that he knows where I am just in case my client ends up being psycho. And yes, we keep our money separate. He has his own career.
Is it dangerous?
I've only come across annoying men. :) On top of my husband knowing where I am (I call him before & after a session) I have a pretty good screening process. I know there are risks, but I face more risks when I ride my bike in traffic.
Do you like it?
My only regret is I didn't start sooner! I love being able to make my own hours and pay for everything I need. I'm not in this for the long-run, so I'm saving to start my own home business and start a family (boring, right?).
I have more questions.
Go ahead and ask! :-D
What exactly do you do?
There are so many names for what I do: tantra bodyrub, alternative relaxation therapy,rub & tug, sensual bodyrub/bodywork, happy ending... A misused title would be anything that includes the work "massage" since I do not have a license to practice in NY. One could get in arrested for practicing massage without one. I do, however give authentic deep tissue bodyrub in the nude and "relieve" my client at the end of the session. Most of of the session focuses on the rest of the body: scalp, back, feet, fingers, everything! I work for myself as an outcall service at upscale residences and hotels.
What don't you do?
I don't do what those in the sex industry call full-service or extras. This means sex of any kind, even oral! I like to do my work hands on only.
Why do guys want that? Why don't they just hire a hooker?
There are various reasons why men prefer bodyrub over escorts. Here are a few: totally safe from STDs, you don't have to do anything but lay there, the good-looking bodyrub girls are cheaper than the good looking escorts, you get a spa experience with candles/music/muscle rub (yes, men like that!), many men don't consider it cheating, etc.
How did you start?
When I graduated college I was struggling to stay on top of bills and ridiculous NY rent. I wasn't able to enjoy the city and I almost felt like moving to a more boring, but cheaper city. One day while looking at Craigslist for office jobs, I came across an ad for an S&M dungeon for $100 and hour. I joked to my then fiance that I would apply. He said, "why not? I had an ex girlfriend who did it and loved whipping men for money." I was surprised he didn't mind, so I got an interview and was hired the next day. It wasn't what I expected. It was mostly sensual roleplay (teacher/mommy/schoolgirl) and I was required to "help them" by hand at the end. I later discovered this isn't normal for a dungeon and I felt I was exerting a lot of psychological energy doing sometimes disgusting work for less money than a bodyrub parlor. I quit the dungeon and started working for a small parlor out of a high rise apartment. It was a perfect fit - the men were upper class, normal, and mostly good looking Wall St types. The environment was relaxing and I made far more money than the in the kink biz. Although I look back at the S&M work with repulsion, I certainly learned the art of keeping my clients obedient!
So... your husband knows what you do?
Yep! It's not something we really talk about in detail. We've been together over 5 years and have a very healthy monogamous relationship. I actually don't think I could do it without him. Because I'm married, I have no desire to slip into full-service work and I also feel safer being aware that he knows where I am just in case my client ends up being psycho. And yes, we keep our money separate. He has his own career.
Is it dangerous?
I've only come across annoying men. :) On top of my husband knowing where I am (I call him before & after a session) I have a pretty good screening process. I know there are risks, but I face more risks when I ride my bike in traffic.
Do you like it?
My only regret is I didn't start sooner! I love being able to make my own hours and pay for everything I need. I'm not in this for the long-run, so I'm saving to start my own home business and start a family (boring, right?).
I have more questions.
Go ahead and ask! :-D
2 comments:
Fascinating. I always wanted to know what a body rub was, and now I know it is just a massage without using the word 'massage' for legal reasons.
You can see a video of me getting a mass... er, bodyru.. oh, what the hell, here
What a great blog! I used to work in DC as a "body rubber", and I'm thinking about starting up again. My only issue is the legal issues. I always made sure that I sed the term "body rub' instead of massage. But what about the happy ending? Isn't that considered "sexual conduct"? Please help me out with this. I truly enjoy this line of work but woul dhate to go to jail for saying or doing the wrong thing.
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